by Louise Kahle
I turn 64 this month. That seemed like a lifetime away when I was in my twenties and thirties. It seemed old. Not so much anymore. I am busy living my life with joy, gratitude and sass. After all, I’ve earned it. The endless transitions I’ve moved through in my life have more than prepared me for 64. I would share them with you here, but frankly, they’re boring and you’ve probably lived them yourself.
At 64, I’m joyful. For me, being joyful is a choice and I find it everywhere I look, even in the contradictions life offers. For instance, I love being with my friends while also cherishing my time alone. While I don’t worry much about getting older I sometimes look in the mirror and wonder what happened to my face, and then I choose to find joy in the transformation that make-up offers. I care about what others think of me, but choose to care more about what I think of myself. I love rainy days, but rejoice when the sun finally comes out. I live with my contradictions and look for the joy in all of them.
At 64, I’m filled with gratitude. Yeah, I know, that gratitude thing is way overdone, but it’s true. I look for things for which I can be grateful. Of course, I don’t have to look very far. There’s my husband of 42 years, the amazing friendships I’ve created, an endless supply of books that feed my love of reading and counted-cross stitch that feeds my need to create beautiful things. I am grateful that my husband survived a stroke in November, and, I’m grateful to be a loving partner in his recovery because of the opportunities it gives me to see my own strength.
At 64, I like the woman I’ve become. I find things that are beautiful, funny, and interesting every day, and I don’t let age get in the way of doing what I want. I wear clothes that make me feel good and I don’t worry about what’s “in style” because I know I have style. I like the way my silver-gray hair looks with my red lipstick.
At 64, I’ve learned a lot, like how important it is to laugh, even at myself, That you really can find comfortable shoes that are also stylish, and while it’s worth the money to buy good quality things like bras, I don’t need to spend a lot of money to look fabulous. And I think all of that makes me Sassy—a Sassy Boomer Girl who wants to look as good as she feels.
After I turned 50, I said goodbye to a 30-year career and started my own business. That took a lot of courage, but believing in myself is the best thing I ever did. I’ve combined everything I know about feeling good and looking good to create my new business: Sassy Boomer Girls—Style Coaching for women who want to look as good as they feel.
What an amazing adventure it has been, helping other women clear out the things that make them feel old, letting go of the styles and attitudes that no longer serve them. Even more fun is shopping together for the things that support their renewed sense of self and sharing the moments when they realize age doesn’t have to dictate how they dress, how they look, or how they feel.